HOW DO YOU FARE?

How do u fare when others prove you with hard questions? Do u flinch or balk or divert pressure by change subject? 
There's : a well, do you dig it?
A mountain to climb,do you climb it?
Love in your heart,do you show it?
A chance everyday,do you blow it?
A life full of you,do you live it?
A coin in your pocket,do u give it?
A calling on your life,do you hear it?
A way to change the world,do you see it?
A word to be spoken,will you speak it?
A faith from above,will you keep it? ... glory up in heaven,will you make it?
Door that's opened wide,will you enter,will you cross the finishing line as a winner?
I ask myself these daily...
Happy New Year!
Benaiah

WHAT A HUSBAND TOLD HIS WIFE ON THEIR WEDDING NIGHT

My wife, everyone has gone home. The music is quiet, the celebration is over. Our wedding was beautiful but it is now in the past. We have finished the wedding Ceremony, it is now time to build our marriage. All that is left now is the two of us… What we will become tomorrow, starts from tonight. Our life is no longer the same.
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There was a day you put on one red dress… You looked so beautiful in it. That Day I wanted to just touch you! We were in the Cinema and I was so tempted. I wanted to just take you outside and kiss you but I couldn’t. Guess what? Now I have you forever, I can do that everyday. Before I take off your cloth and make love to you…
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Let me tell you few things. I have nothing to hide from you from this day. My phone, you can use it like your own. You can access my facebook, my twitter and my Instagram From today, I have become a child.
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For the past five years of my life, I have been a man. I wake myself up in the morning, sometimes I go to bed hungry, I do things the way I want to. I come home whenever I want to but all that ends today. From today you become my mother, who will scold me when I come home late, a mother who will wake me up at six to go work, a mother who will ensure I don’t sleep hungry. I am glad I have a mother in you. I hope you will be a good mother? Don’t be too harsh and I promise I won’t be too stubborn.
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Sometimes I will give you headache but I promise, I will also be the cure of every headache. When my parents died, I looked after my brothers and sisters. I was like a father to them. So i will not have Any problem being a father to you!

THIRTY RULES EVERY GODLY WOMAN MUST FOLLOW.

1.  Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect. (Prov 15v1)
2. Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you.You are each other's keeper REMEMBER.(Eph 5v12)
3. Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them. Defensive women don't have a happy home its a fact.(Prov 15v13)
4. Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.
5. Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband.(Prov 11v22)
6. Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties even if it may not be easy sometimes.(Gen 2v24)
7. Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.(Eph 5v33)
8. Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him, by that doing you give him the strength to do so next time.(Deut 3v28)
9. Never be a wasteful wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.
10. Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband sex. You must give it to him how he wants it. Sex is very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over that duty. No man can withstand sex starvation for too long(even the anointed ones) (SS 7v12)
11. Never compare your husband to your one time sex mate in bedroom, or an Ex-lover. Your home may Never recover from it if you do.(SS 5v9)
12. Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.(Prov 31v23)
13. Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don't do that.(Eph 4v31)
14. Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.(Prov 12v4)
15. Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.
16. Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.( 1 Sam25v3)
17. Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.(Luke 21v16)
18. Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?
19. Don't forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home. (Gal 6v9)
20. If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always teamwork.(Gal 6v10)
21. Don't be too judgmental to your husband. No man wants a Nagging wife.(Eph 4v29)
22. A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn't even know that her body needs a bath.(Prov 24v27)(Prov 20v13)
23. Does your husband like a kind of cooked food?, try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food. (Prov 31v14)
24. Never be too demanding to your husband,enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.(Luke 11v3)
25. Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty. (Prov 31v11)
26. Don't associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.(Prov 22v14)
27. Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.(Heb 13v4)
28. Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.(Prov 22v6)
29. You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason. (Prov 31v28)
30. A prayerful wife is a better equipped wife,pray always for your husband and family(1 Thess 5v17)

WHAT A FATHER TOLD HIS DAUGHTER A DAY BEFORE HER WEDDING

1. My Daughter, tomorrow you will stop bearing my name. You will be happily married to the man you love. Don't miss me because I have fulfilled my purpose, it is now time for you to start fulfilling yours. 
2. From your childhood, I have raised you well by the grace of God but before you say I do, there are few things I need to tell you about living with a man and being married.

• Do you remember when you wrote your GCE O/L and GCE A/L exams? You came to me and I gave you 20,000 FCFA for the registration? Well, even though I gave it to you, the money was not mine. I know you always thought I paid the fees. The truth is, I was broke… but your mother gave me the money. She could have given it to you but she decided to give it to me to give to you.
• Support your husband. Some times things will get tough… he will be frustrated. Even though he acts tough, in his mind he has fears… he fear you may not value him anymore because he has fallen. That is the time to get behind him and support him!
• The best way to show your husband you love him is to respect him! You may argue with him, you may disagree but at the end of the day, let him know he has your respect.
• Do you remember the day I screamed at your mother? What did she do? She was quiet! Do you also remember the day she screamed at me? What did I do? I was quiet! My daughter learn to be quiet sometimes when your husband is angry. When one person is hot, the other should be cool. If two are always screaming at same time, that is how big problems start in marriage. The first thing to know about your husband is his favourite food! If he has more than one then keep them at the back of your mind. Dont let him ask for it, always prepare it for him.
• There was a day your mother caught me touching a woman’s hand affectionately. I was lust after that woman but I was not yet cheating on your mum. When she saw us… she didnt fight the lady, she quietly left. I was afraid of going home because all hell will break lose. But when I got home she said nothing. She served me my food. Guilt was taking control over me. I started begging. From that day, I never looked at a woman two time. Who knows? If she had fought and threatened me… maybe I could have run away from the fight into the arms of the lady. Sometimes Silent brings better solution than fight.
• Forget those romantic novels you read while you were 21. Remember those Indian and American love movies? Also remember those too sweet Nollywood films on African magic? Forget them! Don’t expect your married life to be that way. Life is different from fiction
• The last thing I want to tell you…. Do you remember how you were born? After our wedding, things were tough and your mum had to do two jobs to support us. I was working as well. I get home 6 PM while she gets home 8pm tired. But when we get to bed… she will not refuse me my night food. That is how you were born. Dont form a habit of denying your husband of his night food.
• Be a good wife. You will always be Daddy’s girl…

P.S. LOVE.

PROMISE YOURSELF

To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel that there is something in them

To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best,and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry,too noble for anger, too strong for fear,and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,not in loud words but great deeds.

To live in faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you.

The Cycle of Evil

There was once a king who was so cruel and unjust that his subjects yearned for his death or dethronement. However, one day he surprised them all by announcing that he had decided to turn over a new leaf.

“No more cruelty, no more injustice,” he promised, and he was as good as his word. He became known as the ‘Gentle Monarch’. Months after his transformation one of his ministers plucked up enough courage to ask him what had brought about his change of heart.

And the king answered, “As I was galloping through my forests I caught sight of a fox being chased by a hound. The fox escaped into his hole but not before the hound had bitten into its leg and lamed it for life. Later I rode into a village and saw the same hound there. It was barking at a man. Even as I watched, the man picked up a huge stone and flung it at the dog, breaking its leg. The man had not gone far when he was kicked by a horse. His knee was shattered and he fell to the ground, disabled for life. The horse began to run but it fell into a hole and broke its leg. Reflecting on all that had happened, I thought: ‘Evil begets evil. If I continue in my evil ways, I will surely be overtaken by evil’. So I decided to change”.

The minister went away convinced that the time was ripe to overthrow the king and seize the throne. Immersed in thought, he did not see the steps in front of him and fell, breaking his neck.

Moral: Cycle of Deeds always gives us back what we give to others. If we do good to others, our good will happen, If we do bad to others, our turn will also come.

The Couples Bed Code(Just for fun). :-)

• Article 1: The bed being a sacred place, a woman must never turn your back on her man when there are both in bed.
• Article 2: In bed, the woman shall never throw the arm, nor the feet of her man if the arm or feet of the later happens to come in contact with her.
• Article 3: If the woman is angry during the day, Article 1 shall apply at night .
• Article 4: The woman shall not ware any night ware before sleep(It is not necessary) : if she wares any, then she cannot ware any pants nor bra(She must reduce the number of steps needed to get to Jerusalem).
• Article 5: If the man is sleeping too much at night, the woman must cough hard enough to wake him up: if he does not wake up, then she has the obligation to him under his pants until it hurts enough for him to wake up and perform his duty: If the man does not get up after 3 hits, then Article 4 MAY apply.
• Article  6: When the woman is tired due to excessive work during the day, then the man must do her a massage in bed with love, softness, gentleness, dexterity and tenderness and this activity must end by an absolute moment of silence. If the man does not comply, then Article 1 shall not apply.
• Article 7: While in bed, the couples must resolve all their problems and divergences with love and respect before sunrise: If one night is not enough, them Article 1 shall not apply, Article 2 shall not apply, Article 3 shall not apply, but Article 4 shall apply for that night, until the all problems are solved in a peaceful and pacific manner(NO Third party maybe involved).
• Article 8: At 4H35Min in the morning, each person must wake up and do his or her usual chores: failure to do so will result to a fine the next night(Article 2 shall not apply).
• Article 9: The bed is referred as the "THE GARDEN OF EDEN" where each party must perform his or her responsibility at least 7 times a week(Meaning at least once a day).
• Article 10: If the kickoff is difficult, then the woman must use tools(like hands maybe) and ingenious techniques to favor a good and peaceful  atmosphere necessary for harmony.
• Article 11: All the above mentioned ARTICLES are applicable to all type of couples, married or unmarried without any age distinction. Parties whose rights are been may bring forth the case in front of the high judge(Me) for judgement.

Story of the Child and His Mother

Story of the Child and His Mother

A curios child asked His mother "Mummy, why are some of you hairs turning grey?"

The mother tried to use this occassion to teach her child. She said, "It is because of you dear. Every bad action of you will turn one of my hairs grey!"

The child replied innocently: "Now I know why grandmother has only grey hairs on her head".

Question : Why did the grandmother had only grey hair on her head??? 
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